There are many valuable lessons that you learned in life when it comes to dealing with your setbacks, disappointments or the dreaded feeling after a relationship fails.textbooks doesnt cover them, teachers don't include them and the school doesnt talk about it during your assembly. maybe most of us would only experience this when we have stepped out from school,out into the 'real working world'.
the strangest thing about learning through lessons is when you have felt somewhat painful, hurtful through the experience that you realised; 'Oh yeah, this shall be a lesson for me. i would always remember this experience and learn from it.' and you swear by it, never to repeat that mistake again. then the sorrows, tears and emotions accompanying you throughout the lesson make you think again; 'Why me?? and not someone else?' at this point of time, we find ways to release our pent up frustrations, our sorrow, our emotions. we find means to make us feel better. one of the natural way is either you hate the person for letting you go through this torture or you thank the person for letting you learn some lessons as a living being and becoming a better person the next time. this process is inevitable. we are only human so we experience all kinds of feelings. hatred or love, you decide.
and then, ultimately you change. now, how you change it depends on your perception of things. for good or for worse, it is your call too. no one can ever be a busybody to decide how you shall change. you either let your head control your heart, or let your heart control your head. which many scholars say the latter option would be the better choice.
we need to perceive that change is good and it is part and parcel of our life.and change will only be beneficial if only it improves your mentality of perception towards life, and the course of your actions that best reflects your attitude in life too.... i think most importantly is to take charge of your priorities in life.and to maintain a positive mindset towards the things that had already happened. And whatever that you do, always remember that our freedom of choice given in this life is accompanied by the price of accountability through your actions.
i'm not a big philosopher. but just sharing some thoughts as i change my perception into a different phase in life. my decision to divert my faith has led people to think that i've embraced a religion deemed to be the most commonly misinterpreted 'extremist religion or a religion deemed as the compulsory process for a non-malay girl/boy to be married to a malay girl/boy. this would definitely need to be clarified but it would take time. nevertheless, how hard it would be but i'll do my lil' part in promoting the correct message of Islam. (with the will of God). this could probably take away readership on this blog but hopefully the curious ones will be here to stay...
BECAUSE, i've reached my 1,000 mark! whahaha... thanks to the faithful readers out there. You know who you are. *grin* (if you are not on the 'favourites link list', get a blog and i'll link you)
the strangest thing about learning through lessons is when you have felt somewhat painful, hurtful through the experience that you realised; 'Oh yeah, this shall be a lesson for me. i would always remember this experience and learn from it.' and you swear by it, never to repeat that mistake again. then the sorrows, tears and emotions accompanying you throughout the lesson make you think again; 'Why me?? and not someone else?' at this point of time, we find ways to release our pent up frustrations, our sorrow, our emotions. we find means to make us feel better. one of the natural way is either you hate the person for letting you go through this torture or you thank the person for letting you learn some lessons as a living being and becoming a better person the next time. this process is inevitable. we are only human so we experience all kinds of feelings. hatred or love, you decide.
and then, ultimately you change. now, how you change it depends on your perception of things. for good or for worse, it is your call too. no one can ever be a busybody to decide how you shall change. you either let your head control your heart, or let your heart control your head. which many scholars say the latter option would be the better choice.
we need to perceive that change is good and it is part and parcel of our life.and change will only be beneficial if only it improves your mentality of perception towards life, and the course of your actions that best reflects your attitude in life too.... i think most importantly is to take charge of your priorities in life.and to maintain a positive mindset towards the things that had already happened. And whatever that you do, always remember that our freedom of choice given in this life is accompanied by the price of accountability through your actions.
i'm not a big philosopher. but just sharing some thoughts as i change my perception into a different phase in life. my decision to divert my faith has led people to think that i've embraced a religion deemed to be the most commonly misinterpreted 'extremist religion or a religion deemed as the compulsory process for a non-malay girl/boy to be married to a malay girl/boy. this would definitely need to be clarified but it would take time. nevertheless, how hard it would be but i'll do my lil' part in promoting the correct message of Islam. (with the will of God). this could probably take away readership on this blog but hopefully the curious ones will be here to stay...
BECAUSE, i've reached my 1,000 mark! whahaha... thanks to the faithful readers out there. You know who you are. *grin* (if you are not on the 'favourites link list', get a blog and i'll link you)
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