Monday, June 25, 2007

Marriage changes oneself

Marriage-hood. (if there's such a word)

Age is catching up, and a woman's biological clocks goes ticking away. Soon, i will be entering it and becoming a part of the 'community' in a few months time.

Currently,i'm making preparations for our wedding with my husband-to-be. Its a challenging process. We had so many kinds of decisions to make; type/brand of appliances; colours for our tiles, walls, dining table, cabinets etc; design of our wedding card; type of caterer; type of theme for the wedding; budget for every single expenses; and the list just goes on and on and on.............

So in the midst of making all these decisions, there were many trials and difficult times faced by both of us.

When i think of the trials that we faced, it's only very trivial. but there's always niakmah (wisdom and blessings) for us. Lessons for us to learn from our mistakes.

This recent shopping experience at the hardware shop made me learn alot of things. I knew that if he had raised up the issue of my attitude then surely i'm in the wrong and i need to change. I cannot feed my ego and think that whatever that i say or do is right and he is wrong. i found myself crying to God, seeking forgiveness from Him. I truly love him and i really want to work out things with him.

Ego of a human being can really destroy things. shaitan blows whisperings into our ears, to create mischief among couples. If i had succumb myself to shaitan, i would not see myself apologising to him or would even think that there's nothing wrong with the comments that i passed. whatsoever.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Imagine this

I was suffering from a stomachache that day. went to the toilet a couple of times.

(the following para might not deem suitable if you are having lunch while reading this)

I was in the toilet.

Suddenly, i was overwhelmed with gratitude towards my Lord because i pondered upon the greatness of my Lord. i know it's a bad place to think of HIM, but i really hope HE understands what i'm gonna say right here is simply a way of thanking HIM.

Every single organ or muscle in my body is being designed in such a way that no mankind would have the intelligence to create such a system in place.
Imagine this:

1. every single muscle required to clench our fist
2. every single muscle required to release the 'bad stuff' from our anus
3. ability to process all that junk from our body by segregating the proteins and the saturated fats.(for the fats thingy,from a woman's pov, it would be great if the body don't store all of it at the tummy, thighs and arms)
4. every single heartbeat pumping(survival)
5. and the list goes on.....

Perhaps mankind has already take everything for granted. supposedly thinking that the system runs on 'auto gear'...

Think again. Reflect.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Would You Marry Mee?

In Islam,Marriage is considered as completing the 'other half' of your religion... makes you a better muslim...

Two individuals.Male and Female.Living their separate lives for more than 2 decades, coming together as a married couple under one roof.

Does opposites attract or would it turn out to be fatal if either one fails to understand?


It is a challenging job.and it would be a fulfilling one.

A shaykh said this:
'Two people of different personalities coming together as a married couple. be prepared that there will be alot of adjustments to make. Communication is important. Both need to decide and discuss. Remember to GIVE and TAKE.'


Golden words of advice.Heed it.Or else......