Did my marriage failed me or I failed in my marriage?

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Its been a long time since i came here and write something.

Work has caught up with me. Worldly things became distracting and developed into distractions.
Sleep became deprived and health was badly neglected.

Had always wished that i could take a month of hiatus and run away to another place to relax and 'detox' myself.

Many things have happened in my life recently. Though it is not so convenient to tell it all but the reason for blogging this is to get it imprinted into my head what realizations i had made today.

Today, amidst all the worldly busy-ness to get all my work and appointments sorted out, i realized that i had to carry out a lot of stuff and then meet a lot of people; do a lot of stuff and then, came to a conclusion that there are a lot of things i attached myself with.

Family relationships. Husband. Parents. cousins.

Worldly matters.

Iman - Faith

Dear Muslim brothers and sisters

Let us not be complacent by thinking that our iman will continue to be with us throughout our lives. I believe that all of us may have made such du'as to Allah:

"O Allah! Let us die as Muslims and in a state of submission when we return to You!"

Truly, this du'a is extremely important.

Some parts of our lives, we may have encountered people who have abandoned the religion and chose dunya over Islam (may Allah swt have mercy upon them). We may wonder why but we do not know why and what made them turn their backs.

But as for me, now that Allah has conferred the favor upon me to be a Muslim, i dread the day when the remembrance of Allah should ever exit my heart. Na'udzu billah! For time and time again, i hear stories of Muslims forsaking Allah and Islam.

I do fear my own safety.

"O Allah, cause me not to turn my back against You nor Islam in this life here, and let me return to You only in a state of submission and as a true believer! amin amin ya rabbal alamin!

yearning

Alhamdulillah. was given the opportunity to attend a talk on Good Friday by a Ustadh from USA.

He came here before but was invited by another organisation and i still had the notes from his previous lectures.

I didn't know why. But at one point, when I heard him talking about the trials and tribulations a convert would face, i teared as i recalled my journey.

I teared even more, when i realised how far i have veered away from the path of practises and reminders; how far have i cast myself away from the path of bringing myself closer to Allah...

and tonight, my yearning returned.

and insya allah, may Allah swt continue to guide me on the straight Path, the path that He favoured and not the Path of wrath nor the astrayed. amin amin ya rabbal alamin.

The World is so big

Look at us...

When we look at the world with our eyes, we are so impressed and overwhelmed by how much it contains and how much we can gather from it...

But have we truly look through our heart at how Magnificent He can be, to create the World, the Universe so big? Do we only have the eyes and the heart to look at created things, and not the Creator?

Should the Creator be accorded the respect, honour and humility and gratitude we should have for Him?

Sometimes we do lose sight of the bigger picture. maybe you don't.

I do.but alhamdulillah, God loves me and pull me back on the right track.

God loves His Servants much more than His servants love Him.

婚姻

婚姻 － 真的需要兩個人一起努力，來維持。

O My Lord!

"My sins, if i think about them, are many

But the mercy of my Lord is much vaster

I do not hope for salvation in any good action I may have done

Rather in Allah's mercy is my hope

He is Allah my Lord who is my creator

And I am (infront of Him) a slave who obeys and submits

If forgiveness is intended for me then that is mercy

And if it is other than it then what am I to do?"

Counsel in Fours....Preparing for the Day of Judgement

回教的基本常識

穆斯林信仰源自甚麼？

－穆斯林信仰源自《古蘭經》 和正確的聖訓。因為聖訓也是來自真主的啓示，“也未隨私欲而言，這只是他所說的啓示。”（星縮章3～4）

Last 10 nights in Ramadan

Time passes so fast... It's already the last 10 nights of Ramadan...

As the distance draws near, I do not find myself answering to questions like:' Oh, have you prepared for your Hari Raya?' but rather; 'Have I exited Ramadan with what i have promised myself to change?'

I realised, to set goals is easy but to accomplish them takes lots of effort.

It is not easy to overcome them but i got to constantly remind myself of the ultimate 'goal' i long to achieve...

May Allah swt continue to give me the strength and the perserverance to perform more ibadah. amin.

Will i get it?

Chinese readers galore!

For the past few months, I've had lots of comments to be moderated and they were growing and it seemed like they were all chinese readers...

I wasn't sure or have the slightest of idea where all this traffic came from but i'm thankful for everything. Because some of it made lots of sense and well, some of it came out of nowhere. but anyhow, i'm grateful to Allah swt if it had ever gave any benefit at all. If it doesn't, i seek refuge and forgiveness from the Most Loving one to forgive my sins. 我非常感激我的華文讀者；你們的勸告與鼓勵，我打從心裡感恩。不知道， 你們是這麼知道我的部落格？

In this modern age of technology, even my teacher is resorting to facebook to remind his students and to remind and remind and remind; he provides additional resources for his students to access more information essential for our religion. It is hard to quit when I see him work so hard. It is indeed an uphill task to do all those things by himself.

With his motivation, I have this urge of wanting to write a note and post in my facebook account; my journey towards Islam and post it and tag my family members in it; my brother, cousins and close friends but I'm not sure if it will have any 'side-effects'? Because of my lack of knowledge, i find it hard to share when they dont ask questions. Hence I resort to a more subtle manner of approaching this topic. Well, if only my parents have facebook accounts too.

Welcoming the Month of Ramadan

The month of Ramadan shall soon be bestowed upon us, insya allah.

May I share this article with all my beloved brothers and sisters in Islam:

Welcoming the Month of Ramadan

Hadith

Anas r.a. relates that, “We asked the Prophet s.a.w., ‘O Messenger of Allah s.a.w., shouldn’t we refrain from calling others to goodness if we don’t practice all good things ourselves, and shouldn’t we refrain from forbidding wrong things until we ourselves have abstained from all the bad?’ ‘No,’ he replied, ‘You should call others to goodness even if you don’t do all good, and you should forbid bad things even if you don’t abstain from all of them yourselves.’” (Al-Tabarani)

Taking Off the Hijab

Thought of sharing this article with everyone. And i got this quote from the article which i thought it is very encouraging. Sometimes, in our lives, we feel that we have sinned alot, and we are so far far away from Him. This may help...

"Know, dear questioner, that if you feel far from Allah, the solution is not to stop what you are doing and find a different way, but to persevere and continue on the path you are on, even though it is hard. This will make you beloved to Allah, and one who feels the happiness of being close to Him and being shaded by His Loving Mercy and care."

Taking Off the Hijab

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Islam is in crisis

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http://www.emel.com/article?id=68&a_id=1898

http://public.elmhurst.edu/home/news/84987267.html

Month of Rabiulawal

Muslims are told to send blessings and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w:

Verily Allah and His Angels send blessings on the Prophet:"O ye who believe! Send your blessings and salutations on him with all respect."
(Allhahumma salli wa sallim wa barik a'laihi wa'ala ahlih)

These blessings and salutations are perpetual, it is befitting that those who utter it will not be disappointed when they arrive on the Day of Reckoning.

And especially so, in this month of Rabiulawal, we should remember him more, send more blessings and salutations upon him..... and do so more on Fridays....

Ponder - Where did we actually come from?

The following excerpt is from “Prolegemona to the Metaphysics of Islam: An Exposition of the Fundamental Elements of the Worldview of Islam” by Sayyid Naquib al-Attas. In it, he challenges the modern portrayal of man as a rational agent with independent creative capabilities and powers. al-Attas uses several ayahs of the Qur’an to remind us that all human beings are created in a state of absolute neediness to Allah (exalted be He)- the one who is absolutely free from all needs.

And this is something so thought-provoking about this article. The para below gives a deeper meaning to what we already know; that we were all created by Allah swt:

The mere fact of existence places man in a state of debt the moment he is created. As Allah (exalted be He) is the Master, Creator, and Sustainer of the universe - man cannot utilize material things to repay this debt as he is not their proper owner. The only way man can ever repay his momentous debt to his Creator is by engaging in khidmah (service) to others and humbly submitting his very self to His pronouncements.

And you can get the rest of the article here

What Would Mariam Do? Her Spiritual Journey

What Would Mariam Do? Her Spiritual Journey

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“What would Mariam do?” (Part 1) By: Muslema al-Purmul al-Azhariyah

“What would Mariam do?” (Part 1) By: Muslema al-Purmul al-Azhariyah

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Toilet favours

Did you remember to thank Allah swt after you leave the toilet?

And did you step in with your left and then exit with your right foot?

No, i'm not talking about the favours or flavours from the toilet but rather favours from Allah swt.

I used to have problems passing my bowels everyday. But alhamdulillah, really really thankful to Allah, it gets better nowadays. And i'm really really thankful to Allah swt for giving me this gift of a healthy digestive and bowel system. Thankful that my body is working 'accordingly'.

I really really think it is a favour from above( Allah swt). I suffered from constipation before and i truly empathise with those who may have worst problems than me. May Allah swt ease those who has such problems. I know and understand that there are really far more serious cases than just constipation.

I have no intention to say anything of anyone but with an intention to remind ourselves the numerous gifts and favours that He has bestowed upon us and not take them for granted.

Our body also has a right over us. We need to take care of it so that we can use it in this world to worship Allah swt.

May Allah swt grant all His servants rahmat, taufiq and an abundance of good health. ameen ameen.

Power of Du'a

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The Power of Dua By Khalid Baig

Once Prophet Muhammad Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a people who were suffering from some affliction. "Why don't they make dua (pray ) to Allah for protection," he said. With all the suffering and disasters Muslims are facing in various parts of the world, the question can be directed to all of us today.

It is not that we have forgotten dua completely; we refer to it regularly. But, our ideas and practice regarding dua have become distorted. Often it is reduced to the level of a ritual. Generally it is considered when all our efforts have failed --- an act of last resort. It is belittled through actions and sometimes even with words. Is it any wonder that today mostly a mention of dua is meant to indicate the hopelessness of a situation.

What a tragedy, for dua is the most potent weapon of a believer. It can change fate, while no action of ours ever can. It is the essence of ibadah or worship. With it we can never fail; without it we can never succeed. In the proper scheme of things, dua should be the first and the last resort of the believer, with all his plans and actions coming in between.

Dua is conversation with Allah, our Creator, our Lord and Master, the All Knowing, the All Powerful. This act in itself is of extraordinary significance. It is the most uplifting, liberating, empowering, and transforming conversation a person can ever have. We turn to Him because we know that He alone can lift our sufferings and solve our problems. We feel relieved after describing our difficulties to our Creator. We feel empowered after having communicated with the All Mighty. We sense His mercy all around us after talking to the Most Merciful. We get a new commitment to follow His path for that is the only path for success. We feel blessed with each such commitment.

In every difficulty our first action is dua, as is our last. We ask Allah to show us the way to handle that difficulty; we seek His help in following the path He shows to us; we seek His aid in making our efforts successful. When we fall sick, we know that we cannot find the right doctor without His Will; that the best doctor may not be able to diagnose our condition without His Command; that the best treatment plan will not succeed without His Permission. We make dua for all of these. We make dua before we seek medical help, while we are receiving it and after it has been delivered. The same is true of all other difficulties we may encounter.

Dua is the essence of ibadah. A person engaged in dua affirms his belief in Tawheed (monotheism) and shuns belief in all false gods. With each dua his belief in Allah grows. He beseeches Him, affirming his own powerlessness. A person seriously and sincerely engaged in dua understands exactly the relationship between himself and the Creator and affirms it through his actions. That is the essence of worship! Additionally, such a person can never become arrogant or proud, a logical result of true worship. Dua is conversation with Allah … It is the most uplifting, liberating, empowering, and transforming conversation a person can ever have. Dua is our most potent weapon in all struggles of life as well as in jihad in the battlefield. During the battle of Badr, the Prophet Muhammad Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam stood up all night in prayer seeking Allah's help in the battle between unequal armies that would follow the next day. In the decisive battles against the crusaders, Sultan Salatuddin Ayyubi was busy day and night. His days were devoted to Jihad. His nights were spent making dua, crying, seeking Allah's help. This has been the practice of all true mujahideen.

We should make it a point to make dua for all things big and small. It is the beginning of wisdom to realize that big and small are arbitrary labels that are totally irrelevant in this context. Nothing is too big for Whom we are asking from; nothing is too small for the one who is asking. That is why we have been taught to ask Allah when we need something as small as shoelaces. We should ask as a beggar, as a destitute person, for that is what we in reality are in relationship to Allah. At the same time we should ask with great hope and conviction that we shall be granted our prayers. We should remember the Hadith: "There is nothing more dear to Allah than a servant making dua to Him." On the other hand, a prayer lacking concentration and conviction is no prayer at all.

We should make dua at all times, not only during times of distress. The Prophet Muhammad Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Whosoever desires that Allah answers his duas in unfavorable and difficult conditions, he should make plentiful dua in days of ease and comfort." Also he said: "The person who does not ask from Allah, Allah becomes angry with him."

We should ask for all of our needs: those related to this world as well as those related to the Hereafter. Those who only concentrate on the former are, in effect, announcing that they don't care for their life in the permanent abode. They should blame no body but themselves for the total ruin in that world that Qur'an assures us awaits them. Those who only concentrate on the later are also showing lack of balance, for we need Allah's help to lead a good life here as well.

We should make dua not only for ourselves but also for our parents, brothers and sisters, spouses and children, relatives and friends, teachers and other benefactors, and destitute and struggling Muslims everywhere. We should pray for them for the good in this world as well as in the Hereafter. The Prophet Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: "The dua of a Muslim for his brother (in Islam) in his absence is readily accepted. An angel is appointed to his side. Whenever he makes a beneficial dua for his brother the appointed angel says, 'Aameen. And may you also be blessed with the same.'" [Sahih Muslim]

In the dark ages that we are living in today, everyday brings fresh news about atrocities committed against our brothers in Palestine, Kashmir, India, Afghanistan, Iraq, Chechnya, and the list goes on. And what do we do? We can continue to just feel frustrated and depressed. We can petition the determined perpetrators or a fictional "International Community". We can just forget all this and move on to some other subject. Or we can stand up before Allah and pray for His help, who alone can help. The dua can change our life, our outlook, and our fate. It is the most potent weapon. But it works only for those who try sincerely and seriously to use it.